For all of my life, there literally has never been a negative regret. By this I mean there has never been anything that I regret that has impacted me in a horrible way. Yes, there have been sad regrets like the fact that I wish my parents would have gotten divorced sooner, but I think thats probably the only regret that I have. I don't know if I will ever explain that here because I don't know if this is the place, but thats okay. I might change my mind.
BUT. On the subject of regrets, I think its really important that we have a life completely absent of them. I know this may be a loaded statement but what is life with regrets? Absolutely nothing. Of course everyones 'life course' is completely different and situations that people get put in differ, but within those situations theres always an opportunity to choose happiness. Believe me when I tell you I have had everything possible thrown at me. Loss, death, happiness, tragedy, success and anything else you could think of happening. Crazy enough though, I live with no regrets but that one previously mentioned.
I think I have actually trained myself to find the good and the possibility in every single situation. That is the reason why I have really no regrets. I think it is an integral life skill to enter any situation and weigh out the negatives with the positives. If you're able to do this, you will most likely be able to get through it with no regrets. Quite simply, it's the best skill to have. Tell yourself that you are ready to take on a challenge and do whatever it takes and you instantly rid yourself of guilt.
In my opinion, even when people say the word 'regret' it is 100% associated with negativity and rightfully so. Even if someone is talking about how they 'regretted not buying that pair of shoes in the store the other day' it just sounds terrible. It sounds like theres now a void in that persons life or something. It's important to make sure that you do everything YOU can to make yourself happy in life. Because really, YOUR life depends on YOU. This is not to say that every happiness in your life will not be effected by outside influences, but you have the power to change it. Ultimately you are in control of your own life and you are going to be the only one you have to rely on in the end. Think about that. What kind of person are you when you're alone? Truly yourself.
I'm going to go ahead and say that this blog post is definitely not finished. I feel like there will probably be an update to this because my thoughts on regret are not complete. This is just how I feel right now. What do you think about regret/regrets? Let me know in the comments or send me tweet I'm interested. Do you think it's worth it to learn from regret or just not have any to begin with? -Brit.